If there is one thing I have heard so much in my life, it’s the concept of “If you love them, then let them go. If it’s meant to be, they will find their way back to you.” Sure, it may be easy when you say it out loud, but no one ever talks about how hard and painful it is in practice.
Recently, I fell in love with someone. In ways, I am still in love with that someone. When I see him, knowing he’s around, living his life the best he can, makes me feel happy. When we talk, I always remember the happy memories we share together. Us laughing together, enjoying each other’s company.
So, imagine how I would react to someone saying that to me.
The butterflies that would fly around in my stomach would shrivel up in nothing as if they were never there.
Even the idea of letting him go makes me sick to my stomach. But, in ways, I understand why someone would say this to me.
It would be a way to provide myself clarity and freedom. My mind would not race with the thoughts of “will I ever see him again?”
My heart will not beat every time we lock eyes with one another. Joy will not consume my being after simply hearing my name come from his mouth. Nervousness will not occur every time I look into his eyes and I see my own reflection. A woman who admires a man she not only calls a man, but a friend.
If I let him go, I will not have to endure this feeling we call love. But what is the point of being in love if we cannot feel it? Enjoy it? Embrace it?
If I stop loving him, will the memories shrivel up along with the butterflies? Will I have to forget about him just because the thought of him would bring me more pain than joy?
If I love someone, is it really worth letting them go?
If I truly love someone, wouldn’t I want to fight for and with them?
If you are to say this to someone, remind them of the cost of letting go of the person they love. Give them a warning before they choose to ride that emotional roller coaster.
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